William Herron

Thursday, June 18, 2020

10 Creative Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life!

There’s nothing more exciting than spontaneous, thrilling love life, but what happens when the romance goes stale and your sex life has become predictable? Here are 15 exciting and creative ways to add some “oomph” to the bedroom so that you look at your partner with yearning like you once did!

Buy a Sex Book and Have Fun Reading It Together

Focus on something new to spice up your relationship ¾ buy a sex book and read page by page for new additions to the bedroom!
Make it fun; don’t take it so seriously.
Use a sex book as a way to bring flirtation and experimentation in your relationship. If nothing else, it’s a great way to laugh with your partner.

Try a New Position

Tired of being on top each time or having sex in the missionary position? Try to spice things up by selecting a new position in bed.
Different sex positions can amount to different orgasm intensity.
Studies show that men and women who are diverse in their sex positions experience greater overall emotional connection as well. Intimacy starts in the bedroom but translates to all areas of your relationship.

Role Play

Live out your fantasies safely with role-playing.
Focus on “roles” that excite you ¾ a dominating “boss,” a flight attendant, a “captain” of a ship, etc. Make it fun and flirtatious!
Why limit role-playing to the bedroom? Go out in costume (or not) and hit the bar, a restaurant, or a party “acting out discreetly”!

Make Out With Each Other More

Where has all the kissing gone?
Long-term relationships fail to keep up passionate kissing, often when the dust (the excitement) of your relationship settles. Bring it back with a new kissing style ¾ sweet, passionate, aggressive, or practice stealing kisses when he or she least expects it!

Focus on the Erogenous Zones

There are 10 erogenous zones. Hit them all for an exciting way to spruce up the romance.
The erogenous zones include the lips, earlobe, toes, back of the ear, nape of the neck, stomach, scalp, inner arm, etc. Focus on each one and in random order.

Have Sex in a Scandalous Location

Move your sex out of the bedroom for a sizzling hot sex life!
Focus on wherever you feel safe and excited to have foreplay and sex ¾ your backyard, the kitchen, or the car.
Have sex during unpredictable times, so your partner will think of you as unpredictable.

Describe Your Fantasies to Each Another

Focus on describing in detail your fantasy life.
Talk in a whisper to your partner, touch your partner’s arm and graze his or her neck while passionately kissing him or her. Then go back to the exciting fantasy you’d love for them to play out with you.

Flirtatious Body Language

Gaze into your partner’s eyes, and then lean in for a passionate embrace. When your partner begins to wince at your passion, slowly move back while gazing in his or her eyes.
Lean into your partner’s body while feeding him or her a spoonful of decadent desert.

Speak to Each Another Using Double Meaning

Focus on double meanings in conversation to spice up your love life. It’s easy and can be done with virtually any topic.
Throw your partner off guard with your flirtation.
For example, “This food is spicy, isn’t it? Well, I sure know another way to turn the spice up this evening…”

Feed Each Other Dinner

Devote an entire night to feeding your partner his or her meal.
Keep it going with simple foods ¾ fruits, vegetables, chocolate, meat, or seafood ¾ anything that can easily be put into your partner’s hands.
The more you use your hands, the better!

Conclusion

Whether you want to become more attractive to your partner or just want to shake things up, flirting, having sex in a new location, or just feeding each other a meal is a way to go. Use these tips and take your relationship to a whole new level.

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10 Ways to Choose Your Own Happy Ending in a Relationship

No matter what ideal partner you may have in your life, no one comes without some baggage and obstacles to work through in life. Because there isn’t a relationship without a little bit of drama here and there, “rough spots” to work through and sacrifices to make, take comfort in creating your own “happily ever after.” Here are 10 ways to make that happen!

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Make a List of All the Pros in Your Relationship

No relationship will be perfect in every way. Stay positive with the “good” of it, and you’ll be more prone to see the good.
Focus on everything beneficial your relationship contains.
Make a list of the wonderful qualities in your partner and how he or she enhances your life.
Place that list somewhere private that you can refer to every day for a reminder, and give gratitude for your relationship daily.

Focus on the Lessons You’re Meant to Learn

Everything in life is a lesson ¾ particularly the hard stuff!
During rough patches with your spouse or partner, focus on the possible lesson you’re meant to learn.
For example, if you feel like you’re not connecting with your partner because he or she is watching TV every evening instead of focusing on you, ask yourself, “What’s my part in this? Can I speak to my partner in a different way to communicate my frustrations? How can I learn from this arrangement?”

Have a Life Outside of the Relationship

Your partner is a big piece of your life, but not everything.
Keep a perspective about your relationship just as you do about your career.
Don’t treat your relationship as your identity because it’s not!
Focus on establishing a strong sense of self by keeping up with your social life, expanding your hobbies, exercising and continuing to learn about yourself.

Maintain a Strong Social Network

Focus on your friends. Don’t disappear from your social life just because you’re in a satisfying relationship.
Remember, if the relationship ends, you want to make sure your friendships DO NOT!
Merge your social life into your relationship. Plan at least one activity a month where your partner can be part of your social circle. It will enhance your satisfaction inside and outside of the relationship.

Maintain a Strong Identity

Focus on your true self ¾ what matters to you. What are you passionate about?
Don’t sacrifice in your relationship the things that mean the most to you in your life.
For example, don’t stop kayaking because your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to watch movies every weekend. Giving up your activities will backfire and cause you to resent your partner down the road.

Focus on Evolving

Remember, you’re always changing and always evolving. Accept this, and embrace it.
Repeat this affirmation: “Everything that has happened, or is happening, or will happen, is totally within my control, and I love every minute of it.”

Compromise on the Things That Don’t Matter So Much

Just as you shouldn’t compromise on things that mean the world to you, pick and choose your battles.
What feels OK to give up? What would make your partner happy? What can you let go of in order to enhance you and your partner’s satisfaction?

Express Gratitude for Your Partner, and Have Your Partner Do the Same

Saying, “I love you” to your partner and hearing it back often isn’t enough.
Commit to giving thanks to your partner for one thing every single day and ask the same of him or her.
Studies show that gratitude has both immediate and lasting effects on a successful romantic relationship.
You need to feel valued, and gratitude is the quickest way to accomplish that.

Make Self-Care a Priority

Take care of yourself first and then your partner.
Start each morning with some sort of exercise, wholesome breakfast, a few moment of mediation or reflection and doing something you enjoy (reading the paper, watching the news on TV, etc.).

Don’t Swap Your Hobbies for Your Partner’s Interests

Don’t sacrifice the things you enjoy most.
Don’t become a “partner molder,” a partner who molds to his or her partner’s interests and loses a sense of self.

Conclusion

Spend a decade losing your sense of self in a relationship is common. What’s not always so common is finding the courage to get it back. Save yourself the trouble by following this article’s tips for creating your own happy ending, no matter how “perfect” your relationship may be.

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10 Ways to Express Yourself Romantically to Your Partner

When you want to increase the emotional bond you have with your partner, it’s up to you to find new and exciting ways to keep the romance going. Here are 10 of the best ways to bring it in to your life without it costing you your paycheck.

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Make Every Day Feel Like Your Anniversary

Why wait for Valentine’s Day or your yearly anniversary to make your partner feel special?
Treat every day as your anniversary by making your partner feel loved, respected, and valued.
Practice random acts of thoughtfulness; a little bit goes a long way!

Send Thoughtful Text Messages at Work

Women love to feel that you are thinking of them when she’s not around ¾ that you’re connected to her fully and emotionally.
Spend a minute once or twice a day crafting sweet text messages to her (save the sexy, naughty ones for a later time).
For example, “Love you, baby! Hope your meeting goes well,” or “Can’t wait to come home to you tonight. I miss you!”

Buy Him Two Tickets to See His Favorite Sports Team

What’s his favorite sports team? Is it the Lakers or the Yankees?
He responds to your love when it comes from the heart, and when you feel that he’s doing something right in the relationship, give him a small gift, such as two tickets to see his favorite team play (and make HIM feel like an all-star!).

Pack a Picnic and Head for the Lake

Male or female, everyone loves an opportunity to be romantic.
Focus on something small. Plan a picnic for your sweetheart and bring a blanket, your partner’s favorite foods (even if it’s fast food or fried ¾ just anything that will make him or her feel your love and desire to do something nice for them). Don’t forget the wine!
Bonus tip: Arrange the picnic for around sundown. Nothing sets the stage for a passionate kiss like a sunset.

Try Something New Together

What sport, activity or passion have you always wanted to pursue, especially as a couple?
Make it romantic. Look at it as a chance to bond, and get closer than ever!
For example, take a cooking class, go rowing, go hiking and even bowling can be romantic with the right person by your side.

Try a New Kissing Method

Kissing the same way and in the same style, each day can get boring.
Try something new ¾ passionate French kissing, Eskimo kissing (kissing by rubbing noses together gently), butterfly kissing (eyes open and standing close enough to flutter your eyelashes up and down, touching) and the Spiderman kiss (he’s upside down, you’re right side up).

Serve Breakfast in Bed

Focus on romanticism first thing in your morning and your partner will feel the love all day long.
Serve breakfast in bed ¾ fresh fruit, coffee, juice, pancakes (whatever your partner’s favorite breakfast foods are, and don’t forget the single red rose).

Surprise Them at Work With Their Favorite Lunch

Pop over to your partner’s workplace and surprise him or her with his or her favorite takeout!
Tell your partner you love him or her and couldn’t stand waiting until the evening to see him or her.

Focus on Listening (Not Talking)

Actively listen to your partner free of internal distractions. This is the single best romantic maneuver you can do.
Be present with them, and it doesn’t cost a thing.
Offer suggestions, ask questions, ask what he or she needs help with or how you can best support him or her.

Connect Through Music

If the mood is tense (your partner is stressed, you’ve had a recent argument, etc.), play some soft music.
Dance with them; then allow whatever comes to come!

Conclusion

When it comes to romance, keep it simple and you’ll always win over your partner’s heart and strengthen the bond you have. Romance is the key to boosting the love you already have for one another, and when you act romantic regularly in your relationship, those “rough patches” will become less frequent.

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10 Ways to Let Go of Your Ex and Move Onto the “Next”

Breaking up is hard to do, and it’s even harder when your ex has moved on and you haven’t been able to. Learn the 10 best ways to handle a painful breakup and move forward into your life with a fresh perspective.

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Focus on Having Fun Again

Focus on this mantra: “I let go of my ex and focus on having fun with the next!”
If life has seemed too full of drama and seriousness (probably so if you’ve just gone through a breakup), focus on having fun, letting loose and just enjoying the moment.
Get out of the house. Plan one new thing a week that you always wanted to try, but your boyfriend or girlfriend didn’t.
Embrace singlehood, and remember, even God is single. So don’t give yourself a hard time about it.

Learn the Lesson in Your Past Relationship

Everything teaches a lesson, and chances are your ex was a big ”teacher” in your life.
What was he or she meant to teach you?
Take some time to write about it in a journal, or simply by introspective with this alone time. Use it wisely, so you don’t make the same relationship mistakes in the future.

Gain a Fresh Perspective on Being Single

Focus on what you can control ¾ your single life!
Make singlehood everything it wasn’t before. Seize each moment, have fun with your friends and love having “you time” that a relationship could never grant you.
Expand on hobbies, interests and anything you’ve always wanted to do.
Set goals ¾ big or small; the world is your oyster.

Take a Moment to Remember All the Things That Weren’t Perfect

Are you looking back on your breakup/relationship with nostalgia and romanticizing it?
STOP DOING THAT. Your relationship wasn’t perfect for you or your partner. Otherwise, you would be together. Just for a moment, remember the things that in retrospect weren’t perfect for you.
Get empowered by recognizing that you’re better on your own, and wish your ex well.

Become a List Maker, and Set Goals

So, you want to travel to Thailand, or change career paths? Now’s your chance. List your biggest goals, and set up mini milestones to help you reach them.
Make weekly lists of all the things you want to realistically accomplish ¾ from losing two pounds a month to saving $100 a week to travel.
No one will stop you from reaching your goals except for you.

Work Out and Start Feeling Great About Your Appearance Again

Make your health and attractiveness top priorities.
Breaking up with a long-term partner or spouse is tough. Exercise, get in touch with your body and feel great about it.
Boost your confidence with yoga, dance classes, weight-training and feeling great about the skin you’re in.

Go on an Experimental Date

When ready, date! Keep it light, keep it fun and practice flirting with your date as if this moment is the only one that counts!
Take control of your dating life; don’t put too much stock in it, and don’t have high expectations.
Just go out there again, and enjoy someone new treating you how to deserve to be treated.

Practice Flirting With Complete Strangers

Been a while since you felt desirous? That’s OK; enjoy flirting on a whole new playing field.
Focus on making eye contact, batting your eyelashes, staring with a smile at strangers and using a fun, double-meaning language to attract someone new.

Focus on Confidence Boosters

Confidence is about how you feel about yourself, so practice it in multiple ways ¾ exercise, affirmations, going above and beyond at work, and being around positive people who love you.
Use this affirmation to accelerate your confidence: “I hold the answer to every question I have. I look amazing and feel incredible. Life is moving in the direction I want it to move, and I hold the cards to my destiny!”

Make You Priority No. 1

Take the power of your own emotions back, rather than letting your ex control how you feel about the relationship or about yourself.
Focus on your happiness, and go to whatever lengths necessary in order to get it.

Conclusion

Learn how to make the most of being single again by improving your confidence, setting goals (and sticking to them) and focusing on having a great time from moment to moment ¾ no matter where that moment leads you. In no time at all, you’ll be able to bounce back to your single self and have a great time moving on from your recent breakup.

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10 Ways to Open Yourself Up to Love Again

You may have been dumped, betrayed or simply holding onto an ex who doesn’t feel the same way about you. Either way, love can hurt, which is why it’s so important to move on and open yourself up to someone who can love you the way you deserve to be loved. Here are 10 ways to get going in a positive direction, and open your heart up to someone new.

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Set Boundaries for Yourself

Focus on you ¾ what do you want, you need, you feel? Insist that someone new give that to you, and repeat this affirmation: “I love myself, and as I do, I surround myself with love from others.”
What didn’t work in a past painful breakup? Set boundaries for yourself so that you don’t subconsciously repeat negative patterns of love that no longer serve your best interest.

Trust Someone New…With Caution

Trust is a positive thing to give, until it’s been abused or mistreated.
Go into every date or relationship with the belief that they deserve to be treated just as you do.
Keep your eyes open and pay attention to any nudges from your gut telling you that something is ”off.”
Listen to feelings your body gives you of uneasiness, nervousness or fear.

Focus on Positive Thoughts of Love and Receive It Back

Love comes in many forms ¾ good or bad, codependent or independent.
What’s yours going to be? Set your intention for a positive, unconditional love relationship that begins now before you’ve even met him or her.
Repeat this affirmation to boost love in your life: “As I love and respect and honor myself and my body, I attract a partner who does the same. I welcome love into my life, now and forever.”

Rejoin the Dating Pool With Confidence

You’re attractive, kind, fit, generous, intelligent and lovely. Enter the dating game with all the confidence in the world. You deserve it!
Focus on your amazing attributes that will make the right person extremely satisfied and happy.
Focus on what you have, and resist the urge to compare or doubt yourself in any way.
Anytime your thoughts drift back to the past (painful, untrue comments an ex has made about you, etc.), repeat the following: “I don’t take anything personally. What someone thinks of me is none of my business.”

Set Affirmations in Place and Read Them Daily

Affirmations are positive thoughts of intention that help you to accept what you want.
Use affirmations to bring love into your life, erase fears and move into a new way of thinking.

Focus on What You Want

Make yourself a priority.
Make a list of everything you want in a partner, and don’t leave any room for settling.
Make a list of everything you don’t want.
Read these lists daily to help you “program” your reality.

Be on the Lookout for Familiar Patterns

Focus on patterns of behavior you recognize from the past with a current relationship ¾ secrecy, being wishy-washy about taking the relationship to the next level, etc.
Don’t be afraid to let go of someone new if you recognize patterns you don’t want to repeat.
Own your future by saying goodbye to the things that no longer work for you, and as you do, you’ll make room in your life for someone who fits into your life perfectly.

Date Someone “Outside of Your Norm”

Do you reject going out with someone (or even the thought of it) because they have tattoos or they aren’t in your social circle?
Appearances can be deceiving. Get to know their true self, what they stand for, their values, sense of humor, and what their life is all about before dismissing them as “Mr. or Mrs. Wrong.”

Insist on Honesty and Set the Bar

Focus on honesty, love and a commitment, and that’s what you’ll get.
Set the bar for impeccable honesty. What you exude, the right partner will send back to you.

Trust Someone New Until They Give You a Reason Not To

Go in to a new relationship with trust; anything less will be a turnoff to a potential partner.
Just as there are dishonest people in the world, there are good, honest ones. Remember that when you make your intention to be honest and good, you’ll attract someone on the same frequency.

Conclusion

Anyone has the chance to betray your trust, which is why you should adopt these tips as your own to defend you against anyone who isn’t willing to be honest with you. Learn how to trust someone new by being a beacon of honesty and trustworthiness yourself, and go forward in the your dating life knowing that the right one is out there.

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Are You Accepting Your Partner for Who He or She Is?

Do you love your partner for who he or she is or for who you want your partner to be? If you are trying to fix your partner’s attitude, habits or your relationship as a whole, it could be that you want more than what they are able to give you. Here are some things to consider when it comes to changing a relationship for the better.

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Focus on Being Positive

What ways can you improve on the positive feelings, words and actions you use in your relationship? Begin making a list of everything you can realistically control in your relationship (your attitude, communication style, goals for the future, etc.); then make a list of everything you can’t control (your partner’s actions, past, goals, attitude, etc.).
Look at your list; which column is longer?
Spend some time being reflective about what you want in a partner. Are there things that you want (non-negotiable) that your partner is unable to meet?
Discuss with your partner about everything you need in a relationship ¾ not want, but absolutely need. Is it children in the future, traveling internationally, becoming a lawyer and needing support to do that, or moving across the country for a job opportunity?

Don’t Nag or Complain

Can you train your partner to become more of who you want him or her to be? It depends on what you’re trying to change.
If you’re nagging your partner to help with household chores more or complaining that he or she like sports, recognize that it’s possible to change some things but not others. Persuade your partner to help with the chores is possible; getting your partner to feel passionate about sports is not always possible.
Learn to pick your battles. Nagging your partner about what you don’t like won’t improve your relationship; sharing with your partner how you would love to share a new hobby or activity is a positive way to enhance the relationship, together.

Focus on Being Realistic

Who is your partner? Come to the realization about who your partner really is; separate reality from what you would like your partner to be.
Spend an evening playing a game by asking each other, “What do you care about? What do you want?”
Be positive about clarifying verbally everything you love about your partner; tell your partner what excites you about him or her and what you value in him or her.
Ask your partner to be clear about what he or she wants in a relationship and your future together.
Is it compatible? If not, have a serious discussion about your commonality and what each person is willing to do to sacrifice and change it.

The Art of Compromise

Compromise is healthy when it’s an even give and take, one person isn’t doing all of the sacrificing, and one person doesn’t feel like it’s solely his or her responsibility to give the other what he or she wants.
Focus on staying positive about whom your partner is, and reiterate your love for whom he or she is.
Work to make a relationship better by loving your partner’s essential self, not the person you want (but the person who is already committed to you).

Conclusion

No relationship is perfect, but when you love the person you are with, anything can be worked out. Learn how to determine what you are willing to change, and open up an honest dialogue for your partner to communicate what he or she is willing to sacrifice as well.

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Are You Always the One Getting Dumped?

Are you in agony over getting dumped for the last time? If getting dumped is more common to you than the common cold, don’t despair; there are many easy ways to adjust your communication style, attractiveness and relationship knowledge so that you’ll stay with someone you love.

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Why You’re Always Getting Dumped

Too needy – You act clingy, don’t give your partner his or her space, and you act as if you can’t live without your partner. Your partner begins to feel trapped and dumps you when he or she can’t take it anymore.
Too independent – You act so independent, as if you don’t need your partner. If you aren’t making your partner a priority, he or she will likely feel as if he or she isn’t one. The result is often to be dumped.
Too boring – In other words, you don’t offer your partner anything. You may not express who you are, don’t have much going on in your life (and without the drive to do something about it) and aren’t passionate about anything.
Don’t have similar values – This shouldn’t be taken personally. It’s about your partner not feeling that you have similar values or other major areas of life and attitude in common. Usually this refers not to external but internal things that drive someone to get dumped.
Too successful – This mostly refers to women getting dumped. This can be a power struggle by men, who often do the dumping. You shouldn’t see success as something to hide, but if you’re dumped more than once or twice for being “too successful,” you may need to examine how you talk, act and behave about your success. Do you brag about it? If not, it’s not you ¾ it’s them!
Celebrate – After being dumped, focus on the opportunity now that you’re single again. Don’t spend a second worrying, fretting or getting angry about being dumped. Enjoy the freedom!

Desperation Makes a Difference

Your partner (present or future) can smell desperation from miles away. Do you need someone, or do you want someone? There’s a big difference, and it can affect your relationship success rate.
Set the bar high for yourself. No one wants anyone who will just take whoever is there. Set the standard for someone who has everything you’re looking for ¾ sweet-natured, positive, has something unique to offer you, funny, etc.
Repeat this affirmation for desperation: “I am totally and completely fulfilled within myself, independent of what anyone else thinks or says about me. No one can give me love. I give it to myself first; they, second.”

How Do You Express Yourself?

Take some time to reflect about how you come across to others.
Ask your best friends how a stranger sees you. Do you come across as approachable or not? Compassionate or intimidating? What qualities are past partners seeing in you? How can you improve?
Make a list of everything you’d like to enhance about yourself and why. Set goals for each quality you’d like to possess to improve your relationship success.

Conclusion

Getting dumped is hard to admit to, but when you are able to take an honest look at yourself and your part in the failed relationship, you can improve yourself and those qualities that others don’t deem as attractive in order to become more attractive for a new partner.

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